"Love Bombing" is a new method for resetting the emotional thermostats of troubled children and their parents, setting them on a much happier trajectory. It is simple to do, easily explained and works for both severe and mild problems from aged three to early teenage.
Many, if not most, parents feel that their children may have missed out in some way during the early years. Offering a simple, relatively trouble-free self-help method for putting that right is what parents are waiting for. “This book is written in highly accessible language”, assures Oliver James. “The method is explained as simply as possible, illustrated with cases”. “Love Bombing is a very simple technique which helps most children from aged three to early teenage.
Because so many parents are, or have had, periods of living very busy or miserable or complicated lives, most of us need to reconnect with our children from time to time. Love Bombing does the job,” explains James. Originally, he developed the method as part of his work presenting three series of parenting programmes on ITV’s This Morning.
The entry point for parents will be the particular kind of problem their child has. Each chapter will be about Love Bombing this specific difficulty, illustrated with cases. Problems described include temper tantrums, refusing to go to school, sleep problems, hyperactivity, clinging, and shyness. Along the way, the author brings in scientific evidence regarding the issue, its causes and solutions.
'Finally something that works that doesn't involve shouting, screaming or the tiresome "naughty step"! Love Bombing is a more pleasurable, interesting and intelligent way of getting any parent-child relationship back on track.'
- Imogen Edwards-Jones, Daily Mail columnist, award winning journalist, broadcaster, novelist and screenwriter, best known for the Babylon series of exposés
'I haven’t stopped recommending the technique, it is so simple,yet so effective and so, so, so easy. So if you have a troublesome toddler, a problematic preschooler or a tempestous tweenager ditch the reward charts, the time outs, the punsishments and the naughty step and give love a chance instead. You may just be surprised at the results!'
- Sarah Ockwell-Smith, author of BabyCalm: A Guide for Calmer Babies & Happier Parents
"Oliver James occupies a pre-eminent position in the field of psychology and mental health. Whether writing about teenage violence, or dementia, or the roots of personality, Dr James approaches his subject with a unique combination of rigour and accessibility - a rare quality among health care professionals. In his latest book, Love Bombing: Reset Your Child's Emotional Thermostat, one can see why James has become Great Britain's best-selling psychological author. A friend to all parents, Oliver James has developed a creative, sensible, and effective method for helping parents to improve their relationships with their children. A brilliant antidote to the many punitive and prescriptive child-rearing manuals which dominate the shelves of our bookshops, Dr James encourages parents to love and respect their children with real compassion and understanding. His concept of the "emotional thermostat" deserves a prize. This book has the potential to transform the fabric of family life.'
- Professor Brett Kahr, Senior Clinical Research Fellow in Psychotherapy and Mental Health at the Centre for Child Mental Health, London, and Honorary Visiting Professor in the School of Arts at Roehampton University, London
Auth: Oliver James Pub 2012 UK Pb 224 pages